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5 Reasons You Should Rethink About Taking Gap Year

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This article first published in Elite Daily.

Many of us have thought about it, mostly while daydreaming in our cubicles, the rest while crying in the office bathroom: we need to take a gap year! Gap year is a period to take a break from life to pursue whatever that is you want, usually it’s right after college, but some, myself included, do it later; sometimes it involves quitting the job and traveling, while it’s not always the case.

When thinking about taking a gap year, usually you start to list the pros and cons. I have done it during office meetings when I couldn’t listen anymore to the same motivational speech the boss was giving us for the fifth time. You think of all the good things versus all the bad things, if there is even any. At the end, many just keep daydreaming about it when commuting to work, while only a few actually take a gap year. I was one of the few. I had solid reasons (I mean reasonable excuses). However the glorious gap year buzz didn’t happen. Here is why:

1. You thought you would travel more more, but..

Oh the naïve mind of cubicle warriors. You thought bidding goodbye to the Monday morning meeting equals the nomadic lifestyle you have been envious of on Instagram. Somehow your brain forgot to remind you that it also means bidding goodbye to the steady paycheck. You saved; you were prepared, but then the bills kept coming, this time bigger and more than you have anticipated, some due to all that “I am free from work!” celebratory parties/drinks/dinner you threw and the rest because, well that’s just how life works. Also, you really needed to buy that travel pillow, luggage tracker and night vision goggles since you were jetting off to your first travel destination the coming week, which turned out to be your ONLY travel destination, because, hey, traveling is damn expensive. Somebody needs to update the book about surviving on one dollar a day in South East Asia.

Unnecessary Travel Gears It’s obvious that you had grossly underestimated the cost of traveling while overestimating your savings after deducting the bill payments. Now you might have to move back into your parents’ place, well at least that feels like a vacation too*.

*for a very short period of time.

2. You thought you would have started (and be famous for) your passion project, but..

Once travel was no longer an option, starting your passion project must have felt like the right move. Be it breeding sheep on a farm, building a black and white photography portfolio or, from personal experience, writing a book, it’s essentially something you thought you would love to make and share with the world if you have all the free time. Well free time you had, but a few months later you want to laugh at or slap yourself for seeing your previous job as the biggest hindrance for your passion project. It’s not your job. It’s you!

It’s me! The same person who once thought that I could have easily written a 5-page book draft, instead of spending half of my day investigating the $2.84 discrepancy on the balance sheet. Three months and a zero-page draft later, I truly wanted to slap myself.

3. You thought you would finally be a social butterfly again or meet the one, but..

Some time ago I read that office workers in America only work effectively for 90 minutes each workday. The first thing I thought when I read that was ‘what bullshit!’. The second thing was that maybe I should move to the US. Having dealt with corporate life for years, I can honestly say that your job is only going to get harder and harder, which sometimes means you have to sacrifice your social life for it. I am sure many of you have cancelled your dinner plans with your friends more than you care to admit in the past years, just couldn’t leave the office until late, or when you had another truly crappy day at work and you didn’t want your friends to see this ugly side of you on the same night. Let’s not forget about crawling into your bed instead of going on a weekday night out with friends.

Now that you can’t travel anymore and your passion project is dead, you thought you could go out more, to repair past social sins, to meet that special someone; or, my personal favorite, to widen your network. There is only one tiny problem with this idea: you are the only one who is currently taking a gap year. Your peers and potential future spouse are still working. Some are getting promoted while others are moving to better companies. They are too busy or tired to meet you on weekdays, just like you once used to be.

4. You thought you would learn something new. but..

iPhone You are not traveling, painting a masterpiece, or meeting your friends more than usual, so you pulled your trump card when people asked you ‘Why are you taking a gap year?’. You told them that you want to learn something new, because you do. It’s something you have wanted to do for the longest time, to learn a skill that would enrich your life personally or professionally, something like French or cooking or coding. You borrowed books from the library, checked interesting courses at the nearby community school and went deep into YouTube’s how-tos. You were sure you could learn something useful; after all, there was a TEDx speech that says you can learn anything in 20 hours. Ha, what was twenty hours to you, you had 20 weeks! Your first hour of learning went well, so did the second hour, but by the fourth hour the Internet stubbornly became slow, and when you turned on the TV just to refresh your mind for 5 minutes, a Sex and the City marathon was on, all six seasons of it. Never mind that you already have the whole set of DVDs, you had to watch it again, now. Wait, maybe you could create a twitter trend, #SAbacktoTC. Yep, that would do. By the twentieth week you realized that a good 2 hours in the beginning and an extra ten minutes on Google to check how to say ‘Au revoir’ in a perfect French accent were not equal to French 101.

5. You thought you would get fit and toned, emulating Scarlett Johansson’s bod, but..

When you failed to squeeze into your pencil skirt, which fit perfectly two seasons ago, you promised yourself you would definitely train rigorously in the gym once you had the free time (read: gap year). You even convinced yourself you need to take the gap year for your health. All that binge snacking due to your highly stressful job: if you didn’t stuff that second donut into your face during coffee break, someone was going to get coffee spilled all over their keyboard. Yeah, your low-sugar-office-mind was evil, which was why you kept feeding it to keep it calm.

Suisse McDonalds Once you took the gap year you started living a stress-free life. You could go to the gym, but a gym membership is too expensive for an unemployed person. Why not just do free sports like walking, running or swimming? And you did it, once, when you tried to run around the store to try out those ridiculously expensive gym shoes you bought to motivate you to run, which also caused a dent in your saving account. Right after that day, the season changed and you stayed put, waiting for it be bearable to do any kind of sport outside, while eating junk food and munching all day. Hey, nobody should blame you. Now that you are not working, the only meal you can afford is the happy meal and two bags of tortilla chips. Every day. Four months and sixteen pounds later, you wonder what the hell you turned into.

Does all this make you think about taking a gap year? Good! I wrote each point from my personal experience, but does it mean that I think taking a gap year is a bad thing? Not necessarily, but there is a lot of planning and preparation to be done. Hone your self-discipline, save up twice as much as you think you will need and lower your expectations of external factors, and then maybe you can take a gap year. If you can’t, I say stop making stressful life an excuse to live a healthier or passionate life. Even though I am going back to join the work force, I will surely keep writing, but maybe not a book because whoever once said that there is a book in each of us forgot to mention that in some of us that book is a blank notebook, which I believe is true in my case. I am also going to put effort into this work-life balance thingy and not bail on plans with friends; I think the drinks will help me to wind down midweek. And I will definitely continue to save and go travel every chance I have. Well, that’s the idea anyway.

Have you ever taken a gap year before? Would you?

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  • Wow, thanks for your honesty! I didn’t take a gap year after college, but I did end a job without looking for anything new so I could go backpack around Europe for six weeks and visit family on the East Coast. Then I moved back to California and settled back into “real” life (a.k.a. finding an apartment and a job). I do wish I could have traveled for longer than six weeks, but it is definitely expensive! Also, I was worried about there being too long of a gap on my resume. Do people ask you about that, as well?

    • Foreign Geek

      Oh, Megan there is never enough time to travel! Please don’t regret your past decision, you can always take another gap year later 🙂

      Yes, I was asked about this during interviews and I answered honesty, that I wanted to take a break from working and see a bit of the world. I think that’s an acceptable answer these days since everyone is either doing or dreaming about doing it.

  • I think it definitely depends on when you take a gap year and what you do during the gap year. I know a bunch of people completely satisfied with their post-high school, post-college gap year by volunteering or working some dream travel job (tour guide) in the meantime! But I agree, if you’re doing it so you can just have more time, have little structure, then it’ll be hard for it to live up to expectations. Also I believe the thing about 90 minutes… it’s not very productive over here…

    • Foreign Geek

      Well said Michelle. Unfortunately I realized it much later only. Next time I am taking a gap year (there will be next time), I am going to be plan it properly. Hey if it’s really true, maybe we can start implementing Tim Ferriss 4 hour workweek. That would be awesome!

      • Hahah, for sure!! I’ve been planning a gap year/gap anything ever since I started working this year! And yeah, I think Americans—depending what industry you’re in—have a bad habit of working long hours, but not getting much done. Haha.

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