Honeymoon has been on my radar for a while now. From my niece’s chronological update of her honeymoon on Facebook to a notification of where my ex went for his. Yesterday, I brought up the topic with Hulk. I told him how more and more people I know opt out having a honeymoon (other than those two in my Facebook). And how is it that for some, it is not even because of financial or time restrictions. They just don’t continue their weddings with a honeymoon. It made me wonder why?
Honeymoon has been around for half a millennium. Traditionally it is a custom of a newlywed couple going on a holiday together right after their wedding to share moments that help establish a love in their new life chapter. These days, it’s celebrated in destinations considered exotic and/or romantic (wikipedia).
I understand the initial reasons behind it, but these days it’s kind of out of the point, because many of us travel with our partners even before marriage, to exotic places nevertheless. A friend of mine once tweeted: “If you want to know someone’s characters, work with them”. For me it rings true when it comes to travel, if you want to know whether you can live with someone, travel with them. Travel strips you bare and kicks you out of your comfort zone. You have to depend more on your basic instincts. It shows your partner the real you. In my case, I value practicality over comfort/attractiveness/intimacy when I brought paper panties for a two weeks holiday.
So if we do that in regular basis, and sometimes with different partners (break up happens), is there any magic in honeymoon anymore?
Maybe we should create a new term, cakemoon. When you travel with your new-ish partners for the first time, no matter how long you been together (if you ask me, wait for a while, see if there is any signs of them being a serial killer). Cakemoon will help you to see whether you can live with them in a long run, happily. It might be more important than honeymoon because it has the power to prevent you from making a lifetime worth of mistakes, aka marrying the wrong person. Geee, it feels like I am encouraging you to live in sins. That being said, I don’t condemn honeymoon at all. Honeymoon still is important for me, because well, any excuse to travel.
How about you? Did or are you planning to go on a honeymoon? Is it important to you?